Many times throughout my short life, I know that I have not been as grateful as I should be about ______ or complained a little too much about ______. One thing I know for a fact is that I often times take for granted the presence of family. Thomas Jefferson once said:
"The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family."
I think this is true of me. I have so many wonderful memories and most of them happened with my family! One thing that I have been blessed with is a huge family, and one without borders. If you need a family for Christmas, hey, we will take you! If you need a weekend fix of family, grandmom’s house is opened for a visit. Anytime. Anywhere. Everyone has an open-door policy. It’s really a wonderful thing, and until recently I had no idea how rare that kind of family is.
To say that is not to say that I think my family is better than one or another, but it’s definitely different.
That’s what I have been pondering this evening. Right now I am sitting at the beach with my family (parents, grandparents, cousins, siblings) and I was thinking about how so many others have made the same trip to the same condo and have had a similar vacation to this one.
My point: Many families have similarities but every family is different. For whatever reason, I have been placed in a crazy mess of love that I call my family and we work, you know? We are a blended mess and when you look past the surface, where you might see some disputes or disagreements, what you will really see is a whole lot of love and care for a bunch of wonderful people- my family people!
This beach condo has probably been filled with people of many ages and these walls have probably heard a lot. While MY family is here, this condo will be filled with fun, stories, music, laughter, frustrations, disagreements.
I am sitting here in a quiet room while the moms went to the store and I can hear my uncle playing his guitar and uke on the balcony. It’s sweet music to my ears (not a pun!). I can hear some laughter from a game coming from the bedroom, and I can almost hear the happiness of a grandparent looking at a life that he has created over a lifetime. At this point in my life, I know that there won’t be many more opportunities to spend week long vacations with these people, which is why I am contemplating how it would be if _____ were different, or if I was born into the _____ family. My conclusion: I’m glad I wasn’t born into the ____ family… otherwise I wouldn’t be me and I wouldn’t have these lovely and imperfect people to help shape me and make me.